Creating the marriage of our dreams….a New “happily-ever-after”
With wedding season just around the corner, I’d like to share an article I wrote for MariageChic -a wedding magazine- in honour of all the grooms and brides to be! Happy Day, Happy Life!
Your Marriage….the reason for your wedding
A wedding can be very much like a fairy-tale- whimsical, wonderful, filled with romance and love. Your wedding day is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life. After all that time of prepping and planning down to the last detail, you finally get to showcase your vision for all to see. It is also the day you announce to the world that you have found the highest form of love with the person you most revere, one who challenges your mind and excites your body as well as warms your heart. As a couple, it is the moment you promise to love each other all the days of your lives. And, while it is truly a magical moment in time- as you stand before family and friends watching your love story unfold- what is even more significant to your future marriage is never forgetting the magic that first brought you here together and intending to keep that bond strong forever more.
Contrary to popular belief- a great marriage doesn’t take a lot of hard work- it takes a lot of Friendship-Fondness- & Fun!
Facing obstacles and overcoming them together is part of normal married life. Inevitably, there will be disagreements, compromises, new challenges and responsibilities with each partner making mistakes that may hurt the other. But do you know what distinguishes happy marriages from unhappy ones? A deep, intentional friendship. Really! Happily married couples like each other…a lot! Maybe this seems too obvious or too simple, but it is overlooked more often than people think. Happy couples know each other intimately and show their fondness for one another in little everyday-like ways. They hug, cuddle and kiss. They are kind, considerate and loving toward each other, and attentive to one another’s needs and wants. Happily married couples also make dates and invent new and original ways to spend their time together. They choose to grow, laugh, learn and have fun together. Consequently, all of these positive efforts they make in their relationship creates a common bond which naturally buffers their stress and helps sustain love and connection between them….even during the worst of times. Couples who nurture their fondness and admiration for one another are better able to manage conflict, accept each other’s flaws and differences and prevent them from threatening their relationship. In other words, how you regularly build up your friendship and store these positive feelings – or how you are as a couple when you’re not fighting- actually helps keep your love and communication skills in tact even when you least feel like it and especially when you need it most. Your success as a couple hinges on the friendship you have built up between you more than anything else! By putting your heart right first, you automatically put your communication right, too .
Your wedding will always be special to you as the day you began your marriage. Think about all the effort you put into this one magical day. Now imagine what you can do with the rest of your life!